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Surviving Divorce: Three Essential Steps to Start Your Path

Divorce is a very confusing and a difficult time. You may be asking yourself, "Where do I begin?" Here are three key tips for starting that life journey.

Going through divorce and surviving divorce are a true challenge.

When we live through divorce, we begin to experience a multitude of emotions. 

But surviving divorce is an action… It is a proactive step to deal with these turbulent emotions, the legal challenges and our day-to-day lives that are in deep transition.

Surviving means putting the pieces together that will start to shape our progress into the future. Surviving is the start of reflection.

Divorce is a confusing and a difficult time.  You may be asking yourself, "Where do I begin?"  Surviving divorce involves a Movement of Choice.  A choice to take small steps to move into your future and not to dwell on the past, the decision to live your best life! 

The decision can seem insurmountable, even daunting. Here are ­­3 Steps that will help guide you:

1.    Begin to Get to Know YOU:  Often when we are in a relationship we lose ourselves to the other. In order to begin to get to know YOU, start by trying new things, experiencing what you may have put on hold. Begin relearning what makes you happy. Then you begin to understand what you like and dislike. Give yourself the freedom to explore new things that will begin to bring you joy in your life.

2.   Look Inward: Take the time to look inward and begin to understand yourself.  Divorce is a huge change and is scary.  Devote time to better understand what is important to you. Often we are so busy living life we forget to think about what does give us pleasure. Review and begin to discard any unwanted habits and embrace your new life.

3.    It’s Okay to Grieve, But Then It's Time to Let Go:  Allow yourself to grieve the loss and demise of your relationship. Look at treasured photos and listen to "your" songs; give yourself the right to grieve the loss. Give yourself a set grieving period and resolve to move forward.  Commit to letting go of the negative thoughts and begin to look toward your future, a brighter day.

While going through these steps remember your progress is personal. This chapter in your life is difficult, and surviving divorce takes time and a willingness to move forward. You can do it!  My Divorce Path and My Friends Connect, Inc. are right here with you helping you to find your new future.

Cece Shatz,

My Divorce Path, http://www.mydivorcepath.com

Radio Host of Going Solo – Life After Divorce, http://rhinoonair.com

My Friends Connect, Inc.

http://www.meetup.com/tampadivorcesupportsocial

http://www.meetup.com/Friends-Connect-Tampa-Bay-Area

http://www.meetup.com/tbspan

http://www.meetup.com/SingleParents4DatingTampaBay

http://www.meetup.com/Relationship-Seeking-Middle-Aged-Singles-Tampa

http://www.meetup.com/beachsingles

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Bobbie Lasher June 04, 2012 at 11:36 PM
Cece I feel your outlook is great. Divorce is a very difficult situation many have experienced. When we are faced with divorce no one expects the trials and tribulations we often experience. Getting to know yourself is important. As you said it we often loose ourselves in our everyday lives. It is important to get back to the basics and learn to live again .It is wonderful that you have so many great support systems. My Divorce Path and My Friends Connect, Inc.The members are terrific. And I know they appreciate all you do. Your an awesome lady and your cause is very appreciated. I look forward to following you and your groups :). Bobbie Lasher

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